This prenuptial hearing is not only carried out by members of the police, but also by members of the military. But according to experienced sources, the marriage between the TNI and Polri offices is different. .he said it was more complicated for TNI members, but I don't know for sure, because I don't have experience attending TNI office weddings, hehe.
Before the trial is held, there are several things that must be prepared to register at the office. .First of all, Rizky is looking for info first what are the registration requirements for the SUMDA section (I really don't know bout the office parts at the Polres, hahaha). continued to be given a note containing a number of file points that must be prepared. .I think there are about 10-12 points, but what we can prepare outside is only about 6 points, while the rest is taken care of by Rizky at the office.
What we can prepare include the following:
1. Photocopy of KTP of the prospective husband/wife and parent/guardian
2 ..sKCK (only the candidate, not the parents of the candidate)
3. Health Certificate from both parties and Immunization status from the prospective wife.
4. Photo size 4x6 side by side with the candidate with a yellow base color (4 sheets)
5. BAP from Sie PROPAM.
6 ..brought 2 hard tree seedlings (in the photo he is planting a 3R size tree) and 2 books about religion.
.Well, after having this list, a Gilang and I started to prepare all the requirements since early December 2020, Since the intensity of the meeting is still once a week, yes, so prepare it well in advance..
First, I photocopy-in my KTP and my papa's. Then I made an SKCK to the Polreskab where I live. The SKCK is different from applying for a job, friends, this SKCK is for "applied" not for "applying" hahahaha. .next time I will carry out the TT immunization at the local midwife (outside of the house) (who injects my friend) (then the next day it's hot and cold). Then I took the notes and immediately entered the map. For the health certificate, I didn't come to the Puskesmas because Rizky said that he would be checked at the Polres clinic later. .well, until the trial is over, I'm not getting a health check, dunno why.
Next preparation, me and bang rizky must be photographed side by side with a yellow background. Then we also have to plant 2 hard tree seedlings and photographed.
Ha ha ha ha....
Planting the tree is free, it's up to you, wherever you want. I myself planted 1 tree in front of the house and 1 in my father's garden. Oh, don't forget to write down the date of planting, the type and height of the tree. .because according to the info, when you get married, you will be asked to take another photo and measure it again, how many meters does the tree rise? He said, I don't know. Ha ha.
Then we bought 2 religious books. Just buy a religious book center which is murky because the book is not for us. .I didn't read the book, but gave it to bagsumda too. At that time I bought a book on the virtues of prayer and the story of the prophet if I'm not mistaken.
Finally, Rizky and I came to the city police station for the BAP. Hahaha this makes me nervous because each one of us is asked by different people. .The question is about the biodata of ourselves and our candidates, then tell us a little about how we first met until we decided to get married, the story of each family, the main thing here is just a vent session. .You don't have to be embarrassed or worried, because the interview is face-to-face, we're the one who asked the question. But the answer must be compact! The problem is that the answer will be played with the candidate. If it's different, get ready to be a laughing stock, hihi.
.Well, after the preparations were done, then Rizky put the files that had been collected into the bagsumda earlier. After that, not long after, the trial schedule came out.
When the D day came, I had been getting ready since the midday prayer was over. .Incidentally, yesterday we were scheduled to be on Friday at around 13.30, which means it's Friday right. I just make up simple, the important thing is that I look neat, and wear polite clothes with heels. At that time, I just wore a robe so it was polite to wear a skirt. .You don't have to wear a kebaya, guys, it will really torture you.
Until the courtroom, it didn't take long for the program to start (this kid is a bit late in coming because haha, sorry). I was with 4 other couples, so in total there were 5 couples in the marriage trial, including polki and polwan. At first everything felt nervous, nervous, afraid to be asked strange questions. .but when the chairman of the trial started talking.... well, it turned out that way. All the fears I had in my imagination disappeared.
the situation before the trial starts
Actually I'm lucky but I feel a little disappointed for the trial that I held yesterday. .because really the chairman of the trial did not ask anything. He only gave advice and told his life story, I was confused. Parents were not even asked.
.Luckily, I didn't ask strange questions, right, but I was disappointed that it felt so underappreciated, especially the parents who were already present. In my opinion, if the trial is like this, there can be a gap where the candidate is naughty, he brings fake parents or his parents don't come like that. .I thought it was because it was already late in the afternoon, but Mr. Rizky said it wasn't usually like this.
That's the next advice from the head of bhayangkari. .The point is how we behave after we get married, especially in the Bhayangkari organization, how to dress, use jewelry, to explain the importance of membership cards. Finally, we were given cloth material to make bhayangkari uniforms.
.that's it.... that's it. Go home, we continue to prepare the files for marriage at the Kua because we have to take care of the office marriage court documents, when it's done, we'll just continue to marry officially in the eyes of law, religion, and the state.
So the point
.The point is that this marriage trial is more of a briefing for prospective husbands and wives to build a good household. And it focuses more on the financial discussion, in my opinion. So this candidate pair of police officers must already know how much salary the candidate gets. .because they don't want us as a couple, they think that after marriage, it's fun because the police salary is big, even though it's the same as other civil servants hehe.